wise women

im not really a fan of tv nor movie quotes but i do use and apply to my life those that make sense. so i was pleasantly surprised when an officemate sent a spam email about sex and the city quotes. these caught my attention:

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
ME: so true...sabi nga ni shy "pare kelan ba nagkamali instinct ko ha? kelan pa?!?"

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
ME: i tried this and believe me it causes not just stress but a load of headaches. if you wanna get the effect of a brain freeze go and buy yourself the biggest slurpee size you can get your hands on. sa tingin ko mas ok pa yun.

Don't force an attraction.
ME: couldn't agree more. kung di ukol eh hindi bubukol.

Don't settle.
ME: meaning kahit end of the world na or even if you're already over 40 this should not be an
option. EVER!

You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
ME: try and try until you die to put it mildly hehehe

Do not make him into a quasi-god.
ME: you'll create a monster in the process. Im saying this based on experience!

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
ME: if he was more than a man he wouldnt need a woman by his side duh bah? even joseph
(Jesus' father) had Mary on her side.

Actions speak louder than words.
ME: this is going to be one of my golden rules from now on! guys most of the time say one
thing and then do something completely different so sistahs, use this as your guideline!

When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
ME: ff-up toh nung statement above and all i can say is: this is soooo reliable.

Never let a man define who you are.
ME: been here, done this and believe you me, if you get yourself in this situation, you end up feeling so insecure you cant even decide what you want for yourself anymore.

Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
ME: NEVER as in NEVER. mas madalang pa sa patak ng ulan ang compliments that come from men. parang ikamamatay nila ang pagbibigay ng compliment. besides happiness and fulfillment should come from within you not from other people.

Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
ME: *sigh* so true. how many times ko na ba narinig toh and the men who said i love you to me
often ended up hurting me even more.

To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
ME: meaning matuto ng leksyon. fool me once shame on you. fool me twice shame on me! an old (or rather wise) cat can learn new tricks.

Love is a verb ...
ME: two-way street itoh, give and take. hindi puro give at lalong hindi rin puro take.

Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
ME: if you do, you're basically a helpless gullible prey to your man. trust him, YES but do not
overtrust.

Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
ME: AMEN to that! dapat lang naman duh bah?!?

When it's time to let go; let go.
ME: tsk tsk.....sad but true

hay no wonder i love STC so much. when im 40-ish imma make it a point to be like the STC girls. they kick butt and still get to break hearts of men who deserve it. mental note: lay of the carbo so i can be half as stunning as they are when im at that age.